“Ten film marriages”: stories of imperfect households to strengthen marital love

The passion for vocation to love and cinema led Ramón Acosta, Spanish with more than 30 years of experience in Malaga’s family pastoral with his wife Rosa, to write his book Ten film marriages: ten films to strengthen our marriage.

Married for 35 years and blessed with three daughters and two granddaughters, Acosta conceives as a “gift from God” to be able to accompany the bride and groom and “see how the Lord changes their lives, as changed to us.”

“Rose and I are fully convinced that faith has been that has reinforced our love and has given hope. Faith does not eliminate problems, but offers us a light that clarifies the way,” he says firmly. For them, faith “makes us see Jesus alive on our way, who will always be with us to give us peace, joy and meaning to what we live.”

A path and support to achieve true love

Malaga marriage also helps the youngest in their affective-sexual education, in the discovery of their vocation to love, and marriages in difficulties, “when age advances without remedy and we must continue to have hope, or when you have to defend the beauty and goodness of life.”

During this particular mission, they have witnessed how couples, when they discover where the origin of love in which to support life is, “change their gaze” and learn that “true love is light to guide life.”

“A love is not true because he feels intensely, and fascinates with his greatness, but because he promises a larger life and offers a path and support to be able to reach it,” says Acosta in conversation with ACI Press.

Ten film marriages

In his last book – the room after publishing Learn to love; A film marriagey Rish! The adventure of loving—makes a tour of different homes “that are not perfect” and in which the true protagonists are reading marriages.

With this book, marriages are “called to grow” and invited to “savor a story” and confront it with yours. “Thus, by sharing the film, they will grow in Hondura in giving the other and in the talk,” he says.

Acosta proposes a triple objective for readers: to educate the marital gaze, since “it is necessary to generate a new look of us”; educate the spouse word, to “know better the heart of who you want to find your place in it”; and integrate the time, that is, “recognize the stages through which they pass knowing the past, the present and the future.”

Unlike what readers can expect, the work presents “homes that are not perfect”, and where there are lights and shadows. For Acosta, “the key is in the light that gives hope to the path that follows.” “It is not a matter of having recipes to apply,” he adds – but finding a ‘meaning’ that makes possible the change of our heart. “

The characters in the book, “shows, for example, the dangers of getting carried away, in a courtship that is not, for a hopeless emotivism”, as is the case in the “presentitis” of Tom and Summer in 500 days together.

The unity in the family and the opening to the other is also reflected in the face of adversities, as happens to the Sullivan, which “end up integrating time” in the film In America. Readers can also learn from the importance of family and labor reconciliation in In Good Company; or reflect on the “futuritis” of Amaia and Javi in Five lobiteS, with a future full of uncertainty and hopeless.

Another of the teachings that the book leaves is to value confidence in the other, as with the Etesami in The traveler; Learn to be a host and listen, like hepple in Another Year; Learn about the problem of living from dreams that do not correspond to reality, such as Tkaloun in Youth dreams or until the importance of consciousness and faith that leads us to holiness, such as the Jägerstätter in Hidden life.

These characters, according to the writer, “will open our dialogue, putting on the table different ways of seeing reality, which we have to confront and place in the same project of life and love.”

“Christ saves marriage”

The author of the book appeals to the responsibility of the marriages of “bringing to light the beauty, goodness and the truth that we are living. Now it is time to come out and offer our testimony to so many young people thirsty for hope. Yes, it is possible to be happy in marriage!”

Faced with the growing divorce rate and the decrease in marriages, Acosta regrets that “speaks of a lack of hope.” He assures that “there are no recipes” to achieve happiness in marriage, but that “the first step is to discover the path of adequate help.”

“Unlike so many self -help manuals, this book is an invitation to walk together and then accompany. During this walk there is a conversion of the heart, which causes a new marital attitude and begins to live in the logic of love,” he says.